Dana Cole, LMFT
Psychotherapist · Relationship & Intimacy Specialist
I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist with over twenty years of experience guiding individuals and couples toward emotional fluency and relational fulfillment. My style blends psychological depth with practical communication tools drawn from systems theory, attachment work, and sex therapy. I have direct clinical experience and ongoing advanced training in the field of relational and trauma‑informed therapy, and have completed extensive study in Hakomi and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, both body‑based approaches that help clients integrate emotional awareness through the nervous system and lived experience. I’m also trained in EMDR, an evidence‑based method for processing trauma and attachment injuries, and most recently have been pursuing in‑depth study with Martha Kauppi, a leading voice in integrative sex therapy and relational systems. Her influence enriches how I work with themes of desire, differentiation, and erotic connection.
Who I Work With
My clients are thoughtful, high‑functioning adults who want their relationships to have the same depth and intention they bring to the rest of their lives. Many are comfortable with success, but less practiced with vulnerability — especially the kind required for lasting intimacy.
The Heart of My Work
My work is grounded in modern relational science and the belief that communication is not just a skill, but a path back to connection. When you can speak what’s true and listen without bracing, intimacy naturally deepens—emotionally and, when relevant, erotically. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s aliveness.
A Sex‑Positive, Inclusive Framework
To me, sex‑positive means compassionate, curious, and respectful of the full spectrum of human desire — from those seeking erotic renewal to those for whom intimacy is more emotional than physical. Desire is not a standard to meet; it is a conversation to understand. My practice is fully affirming of all identities, gender expressions, orientations, and relationship structures.
How Sessions Feel
Our conversations are steady, thoughtful, and deeply attuned. I listen not only to your words but to the spaces between them — tone, silence, body language, the small moments that reveal longing or protection. Together we slow down reactive patterns and learn to hold complexity with more ease: love and conflict, desire and self‑protection, closeness and individuality. Clients often describe the work as grounding, clarifying, and unexpectedly relieving.
Restore Connection, Meaning, and Vitality
You and your life partner both deserve a fulfilling relationship. Get started by reaching out today.
